Tuesday, November 1, 2011

For the Matrimonial Purposes by Kavita Daswani

I bought this book for a steal from PVR Saket complex. The steal would be Rs.50/- Can you believe that?!!

Initially I was a bit reluctant but then thought, What the Heck? Its not always you read Intelligent Books, right!
But this book seemed to really intrigue me so much, I finished it in a day... It was like a few pages of my life have been taken and put together in the book.
I am 32 and the Marriage Sword has been hanging over my neck since I turned 27, though if Dad had his way I would have been married off by 20. Anyway, reading this book actually made me feel a lot better about myself. I also realized how sometimes the pressure makes us get into unhealthy relationships and also accepting bad behavior of prospective matches because we have to get married. The idea is, when you find one with all the requisites, please hold on to him in spite of Bad Behaviour .
We women forget who we are and what we are all about. We sometimes just stop enjoying ourselves and getting married becomes the most important aim in life. People feel Sorry for you because you are not Married by the time you hit 30. Is a relationship and marriage a number's game??? Isn't it important to feel good about a relationship and enjoy it and then get married when it feels right? Why all this pressure?
 In fact, I am sort of a late bloomer. I feel more confident and beautiful and sure about myself than I was when I was in my twenties. I am getting the opportunities to be what I want to be and enjoy myself right now. Should I let it go and worry about why I am not finding the right Partner?
I don't think so...


  1. Completely agree! Increasing age shouldn't be the most important concern of one's life.
    But the only difference between a career and partner is, in a few years, one can live without a career but not a partner.

  2. Again agree! But all I wanted to convey was that one should not get depressed and be open to possibilities as and when it arrives