What If I Die Today.....

What if I die today?!! This thought came to me when my flight was searing through the clouds and was under turbulence due to bad weather...Several questions arose in my head....Will my parents, friends and those people I care about, miss me or cry for me? May be they would for sometime but then life will go on as usual. Life doesn't stop for anyone....
Will I regret not having my so-called set wishes/goals/dreams of having a loving husband, having kids, having a business of my own, traveling the world, etc, etc,get fulfilled?? Such significant questions but do these things really matter?! I questioned myself. Is holding out on my present for these wishes/dreams to get fulfilled, the right thing to do?
Then it dawned on me, the only thing that I have in my hand, is my present...Nothing can take it away from me...I only have this very moment. Who knows whether I will live to see my tomorrow...
People talk about manifesting their wishes and dreams, and I do agree this can be done but life sure does surprise you and has different plans written for you. Probably what is good for you. So I guess I have decided to take this very moment and make it my own and work slowly towards achieving my goals, ambitions, etc, but not by losing out on my present. Letting life surprise me everyday and taking things as they come 'coz probably I, ll not live to see tomorrow...Who knows!!

Today I Know That...

Today I know that I cannot control the ocean tides.
I can only go with the flow of life.
Today I know that I cannot control the consequences of the choices I've made in the past. Life doesn't happen to me , it happens because of me. Is what I choose to think, do and create in each moment.
Today I know that I cannot control people .
I can only control my attitude towards them and their behavior.
Today I know that I cannot change people , they are on their own path.
I can only act in kind, loving ways toward the people around me.
Today I know that we are our experiences and that love is the only answer I was looking for my whole life and I can only find it within myself.
By Karina Loureiro.

Running after things and people

There is so much pain in this world. Everyone is struggling in this life. But what is the cause of all this pain? I would categorise into 4 parts-Our mind, our ego self, our constant unhappiness with our own lives and comparing our lives with others.

Things I wish I knew 10 years ago

 

 Below is By Marc and Angel Hack Life.. This made so much sense to me and appreciate them for putting this up.. Hence decided to share the below in my blog..

 

Things I Wish I Knew 10 Years Ago.

Stay in tune with your spirit.  Be calm and think.  Listen to your inner voice.  Anticipate and plan.  Take 100% responsibility for your life.  Lean into your struggles.  Act with courage.  Maintain an open mind.  Practice kindness and compassion.  Keep your promises.  Forgive, let go, and move forward.  This is how you get from where you are to where you want to be.
I’ve learned these concepts gradually over the last decade.  Together they have helped me live a life of purpose.  Had I understood these things 10 years ago, I could have avoided quite a bit of confusion and grief.  So today I figured I’d share a few more things I wish I had known sooner.  My hope is that they help you hurdle over some of the barriers I stumbled into on the road of life.

1. Loving someone should not mean losing YOU. – True love empowers you, it doesn’t erase you.  True love allows human beings to build amazing things, by working together through passion, kindness, and good will.  So be strong enough to stand alone, be yourself enough to stand apart, but be wise enough to share your love and stand together when the time comes. 
   
2. Getting even doesn’t help you get ahead. – You will never get ahead of anyone as long as you try to get even with them.  Sometimes we don’t forgive people because they deserve it.  We forgive them because they need it, because we need it, and because we cannot move forward without it.  To forgive is to rediscover the inner peace and purpose that at first you thought someone took away when they betrayed you.
3. You attract what you show to the world. – So if you want it,reflect it .  Happiness, freedom, and peace of mind are always attained by giving them out to others without expectation.  The one who blesses others is abundantly blessed; those who help others are eventually helped.  You have two hands; one to help yourself, the second to help those around you.
4. Failure is success when you learn from it. – Experience is what you get when you don’t get what you want.  Obstacles can’t stop you.  Problems can’t stop you.  Other people can’t stop you.  These barriers are temporary – they come and go.  Which is why, over the course of a lifetime, the only barrier that can truly stop you, is YOU.  So don’t give up.  Sometimes you have to journey through hell on Earth to find heaven on Earth.
5. You are not what you have done, but what you have overcome. – All the hardships.  All the mistakes.  All the rejections.  All the pain.  All the times you questioned why.  All of these things have given birth to the wisdom and strength that will help you shine your light on the world, even in the darkest of hours.
   
6. Your past can only hurt you today if you let it. – Do not pay any attention to what the past whispers if all it’s doing is bad-mouthing what today has to offer.  There are times when you need to release the bitterness and grab a firm hold of happiness, without permission and without reason.  The only way to get over the past is to leave it behind.  If you spend your time re-living moments that are gone forever, you might miss the special moments that are yet to come.
7. It’s never too late to become the person you are capable of being. – Repeat after me: “I AM FREE.”  You can fulfill your life purpose by starting here, in this moment.  The purpose of life is not to simply be happy, but to matter, to be productive, to be useful, to make some kind of difference that you have lived at all.  Remember, life is constant change, but growth is optional.  Choose wisely, starting now.
8. Passion is important. – If you are trapped between your dreams and what other people think is right for you, always travel the route that makes you happy – unless you want everybody to be happy, except you.  And whatever you do, don’t chase the money.  Catch up to the ideas and activities that make you come alive.  Go for the things of greater value – the things money can’t buy – and use them to create a relevant profession.  
9. The pain is worth it. – You can’t really begin to appreciate life until it has knocked you down a few times.  You can’t really begin to appreciate love until your heart has been broken.  You can’t really begin to appreciate happiness until you’ve known sadness.  You have to struggle up the mountainside to appreciate the breathtaking view at the mountaintop.
10. Sometimes what you don’t want is what you need. – Sometimes the things you can’t change end up changingyou for the better . Master your responses to external events; don’t always attempt to control them.  You will rarely end up exactly where you wanted to go, but you will always end up exactly where you need to be. 

Learning to Accept Oneself

Its been a long, hard Battle with myself.... Hating myself to the core...Suffering in return.. Never realizing its so important to accept myself with all its beauty and ugliness.. Learning to embrace myself no matter what, was the toughest task in my life... But I learnt!! Still learning... Learning that its Ok to make mistakes, its Ok to make a fool of myself, its Ok to fall in love with someone who doesn't love you back, its Ok to feel anger and hatred, its Ok to scream out and feel intense hatred and then letting go...I have learnt all of that....Life is tough but it was never promised otherwise... There are moments when the going gets tough, when the tears come with just a slight provocation, then there are moments of intense joy and light-heartedness.. Life is all about that and more...

Bring your best possibilities to life.

You are right where you should be at this moment. Now it is time to move on to what is next.

Whether your life up to this point has been easy or whether it has been difficult, you are here just the same. And your destiny does not care about your past.

There are plenty of reasons why you find yourself here at this time. What matter much more, though, are the reasons you now have for moving forward.

As good as they have been, your triumphs of the past are now little more than pleasant memories. As painful as they once were, your past failures are now behind you.

Do you realize how completely free you are at this very moment? Do you understand that the main thing holding you back is your belief that something is holding you back?

Today is your opportunity to fully taste that freedom and to finally get beyond the limits you've imposed on yourself. Reach inside, touch your most compelling purpose, and bring your best possibilities to life.

-- Ralph Marston

When the Going Gets Tough....

I read the below insights from one of the Spiritual  Blogs and they got me thinking. We sometimes tend to reflect on what went wrong and blame ourselves and the situation for the mishappenings. Its wrong b'coz things just happen. Maybe our decision could be wrong at that point of time but the right thing would be to not to ponder too much and move on for a better day and with the lessons learnt.
 

1. Look at life as a journey and enjoy the ride. Get the most out of the detours and realize they're sometimes necessary.

2. Do your best, but if what you're doing has caused you discouragement, try a different approach. Be passionate about the process, but don't be so attached to the outcome.

3. Wish the best for everyone, with no personal strings attached. Applaud someone else's win as much as you would your own.

4. Trust that there's a divine plan, that we don't always know what's best for us. A disappointment now could mean a victory later, so don't be disappointed. There is usually a reason.

5. Ask no more of yourself than the best that you can do, and be satisfied with that. Be compassionate towards yourself as well as others. Know your calling, your gift, and do it well.

6. Don't worry about something after it's done; it's out of your hands then, too late, over! Learn the lesson and move on.

7. Have the attitude that no one, except you, owes you anything. Give without expecting a thank-you in return. But when someone does something for you, be appreciative of even the smallest gesture.

8. Choose your thoughts or your thoughts will choose you; they will free you or keep you bound. Educate your spirit and give it authority over your feelings.

9. Judge no one, and disappointment and forgiveness won't be an issue. No one can let you down if you're not leaning on them. People can't hurt you unless you allow them to.

10. Love anyway. . . for no reason. . . and give. . .for no reason.